There are two books about childhood trauma I really enjoyed. They aren’t specific to parental abuse but they are about childhood trauma in general and how it affects us long term. Both are written by Dr. Bruce Perry who is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist, specializing in childhood trauma.
I got the outdoor voices track pant- super high waisted and I’m tall! Looks like it’s sold out on their website at the moment, but you might be able to find some on Poshmark
In Korea we are 1 years old when we are born, and every January 1st you add a year regardless of if it’s your birthday. Because when you are born it’s considered your “first year of living”, and when it’s January 1st it’s considered a new year. It’s kinda weird lol but yea
No. Bún is just the word for vermicelli noodles in Vietnamese (rounded noodles). Thịt means meat, nướng means grilled. Chả can be made of meat or fish but basically it’s chopped into tiny pieces and molded into a shape. Bún is used in a lot of viet dishes (like the well known bún bò Huế - which is vermicelli noodles with beef from the region of Hue, as the name indicates). It’s the difference in meat, broth, and fish sauce that really sets them apart. Bún thịt nướng usually also has an egg roll in it too.
I am on this subreddit to learn more about what goes on inside for those who are struggling with EDs so that I can be a better human to those who are suffering. I’m pretty ignorant about the whole matter. I myself have never had an ED or even dieted. I’ve always had a good relationship with food and my body so this sub has been eye opening and many times quite devastating. I hope nothing I say triggers.
Maybe I’m crazy but it makes me intrigued. I want them to explain to me why they like it and what the deep lessons are for this book besides follow your dreams.
It’s very easy. But I read Will by Will Smith and he said The Alchemist was life changing and his favorite book so ….. there are people who do think it’s amazing.
I am open to reading it. It’s just interesting how I do see some of the same criticisms of that book cropping up (wasted potential etc). I’m glad you liked it!
Is it not too late? Someone did it better, younger and faster than me. If I lose things like my love I’m in my 30s and not getting any younger or more wealthy to enable an easier life.
The question I have is: why do you have to be better, younger, faster? For every person who is those things compared to you, you are those things to someone else.
The only moment you have is the present. Once you focus on doing exactly what you ought to be doing in the exact moment, you will build self esteem and self worth without realizing it. The decision to like your private self by doing things, saying things, and choosing things that make you like who you are when you’re alone is key. If you don’t know where to start, start now. When you wash dishes, do a good (not perfect) job and only wash dishes. Don’t think of anything else. When you work, do the work right in front of you and nothing else. When you walk to your car, focus on the steps you take when walking to your car. Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh may be a great start in trying to help find your inner peace.
I’m not currently depressed. But I’ve been extremely low for a significant period where I felt it was impossible to see the end of the misery. But now I’m on the other side. I’ve also treated people with diagnosed depression. Obviously, therapy and medication will always be solid options. However, some people don’t want to be medicated while others can’t afford therapy. There are some things you can tweak that may not ENTIRELY get rid of your depression but may be able to really temper it down. I am of the belief that body and mind are not separate. They coexist and intertwine. When you address one, you affect the other.
What do you care about? Once you figure that out, dig deeper. All your interests and skills will converge into a unique thing that you can monetize later.
That can be it. But isn't the only way. Truly, great only matters to the one living it and not what others think. If the one living it is happy, content healthy, that is a great life.
I don’t think you can accidentally stumble upon a great life. You must cultivate it intentionally through many choices, big and small. And I also don’t think you can feel happy without feeling connected within yourself, with people you love, and with the world around you. There is no way to live happily in a vacuum.
I don’t know how European libraries work. Here in the States, we have so many libraries where we can borrow books for free. We also have an app for that. I think that reading is so important because it gives you new ideas and therefore new solutions to your problems. Books can absolutely be life changing and improve your quality of life.
I am in awe of both of your responses! I too have been healing myself and your words inspire me! Your words and how you responded are exactly what my aspirations are for myself in how I respond and inspire others! If you write or share stories I would love to read it! To the OP, I too hope you start crushing those limiting self beliefs, cause that’s what they are! Start telling yourself you believe in yourself and eventually, and yes i said eventually cause things take time, you will believe it. It’s the power of persuasion and you’ve got to be the one to persuade yourself! We can and do attempt to persuade people all day long but it’s completely up to each and every one of us what we do with the advice or actions that are given. You were given the most astoundingly amazing advice that you, or anyone else for that matter, could ever hope to receive and I know that if you read the words again and train your brain, you will absolutely get out of this mindset you are in! Believe in yourself! I’ll leave you with this phrase that I adopted at the beginning of my journey, “Progress not Perfection”.
Hi! I actually have a blog that is now defunct. I’m editing my posts and I will relaunch down the road. When that happens, I hope I will remember to let you know.
I will keep you in mind when I relaunch too. Thanks so much for the support and kindness. People have been really sweet to me these last two days on Reddit.
I’ll tell you how I got over being called ugly often as a kid. It used to make me cry because people criticized my skin color, my hair, my nose, my weight etc. One day I couldn’t stop thinking about how people were so mean to me. I was tired of crying. I started feeling concerned that I couldn’t shake off that sadness. That day, I looked at myself in the mirror and I determined for myself that I was NOT ugly. I looked at each characteristic on my face separately and came to the conclusion. Everything on my face was just average. My nose was a nose and my eyes were eyes etc. There was nothing hideous or disgusting about noses that looked like noses. I decided that I was normal that day. And I realized I didn’t need to be pretty. There was no one to compete with anymore. If someone calls me pretty, I don’t let it get to my head. If someone calls me ugly, I don’t let it get to my heart. I know I am just average which felt like an absolute blessing. What a relief it is to not have to fight for the top spot with anyone. It’s a losing game because there will always be someone younger and hotter. Just remove yourself from the competition altogether.
As a coach, James has a professional duty to come up with a diet plan, work out plan, and/or PEDs plan that is both safe and effective. The effective part is much preferable but the safe part is crucial and nonnegotiable. He must be held responsible for his negligent professional behavior. Any job must adhere to some code of ethics. James is fully responsible for the plans and advice he gives out to his clients. In the end, did James give dangerous information that led to this result? With a position like that, you have great responsibility towards your client.
There are two books about childhood trauma I really enjoyed. They aren’t specific to parental abuse but they are about childhood trauma in general and how it affects us long term. Both are written by Dr. Bruce Perry who is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist, specializing in childhood trauma.
I got the outdoor voices track pant- super high waisted and I’m tall! Looks like it’s sold out on their website at the moment, but you might be able to find some on Poshmark
To add to the outdoor voices suggestion:
On the CRZ pants? True to size, they fit a little loose but they’re supposed to.
Thanks so much!
In Korea we are 1 years old when we are born, and every January 1st you add a year regardless of if it’s your birthday. Because when you are born it’s considered your “first year of living”, and when it’s January 1st it’s considered a new year. It’s kinda weird lol but yea
We also do this in Vietnam but we turn an extra year on lunar New Years (not January 1st).
isn’t that basically bún chả?
No. Bún is just the word for vermicelli noodles in Vietnamese (rounded noodles). Thịt means meat, nướng means grilled. Chả can be made of meat or fish but basically it’s chopped into tiny pieces and molded into a shape. Bún is used in a lot of viet dishes (like the well known bún bò Huế - which is vermicelli noodles with beef from the region of Hue, as the name indicates). It’s the difference in meat, broth, and fish sauce that really sets them apart. Bún thịt nướng usually also has an egg roll in it too.
I am on this subreddit to learn more about what goes on inside for those who are struggling with EDs so that I can be a better human to those who are suffering. I’m pretty ignorant about the whole matter. I myself have never had an ED or even dieted. I’ve always had a good relationship with food and my body so this sub has been eye opening and many times quite devastating. I hope nothing I say triggers.
I am no longer interested in those people lol
Maybe I’m crazy but it makes me intrigued. I want them to explain to me why they like it and what the deep lessons are for this book besides follow your dreams.
Lol. I think they like it cause it’s short and easy tbh
It’s very easy. But I read Will by Will Smith and he said The Alchemist was life changing and his favorite book so ….. there are people who do think it’s amazing.
Dreams From My Farther - Barrack Obama
Did you want another book about Obama? Or maybe a better memoir in general?
This is really interesting because I read The Midnight Library and I have recommended several times.
I am open to reading it. It’s just interesting how I do see some of the same criticisms of that book cropping up (wasted potential etc). I’m glad you liked it!
Tao Te Ching. (Get a good translation).
Is it not too late? Someone did it better, younger and faster than me. If I lose things like my love I’m in my 30s and not getting any younger or more wealthy to enable an easier life.
The question I have is: why do you have to be better, younger, faster? For every person who is those things compared to you, you are those things to someone else.
The only moment you have is the present. Once you focus on doing exactly what you ought to be doing in the exact moment, you will build self esteem and self worth without realizing it. The decision to like your private self by doing things, saying things, and choosing things that make you like who you are when you’re alone is key. If you don’t know where to start, start now. When you wash dishes, do a good (not perfect) job and only wash dishes. Don’t think of anything else. When you work, do the work right in front of you and nothing else. When you walk to your car, focus on the steps you take when walking to your car. Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh may be a great start in trying to help find your inner peace.
I’m not currently depressed. But I’ve been extremely low for a significant period where I felt it was impossible to see the end of the misery. But now I’m on the other side. I’ve also treated people with diagnosed depression. Obviously, therapy and medication will always be solid options. However, some people don’t want to be medicated while others can’t afford therapy. There are some things you can tweak that may not ENTIRELY get rid of your depression but may be able to really temper it down. I am of the belief that body and mind are not separate. They coexist and intertwine. When you address one, you affect the other.
What do you care about? Once you figure that out, dig deeper. All your interests and skills will converge into a unique thing that you can monetize later.
Correct. But their are infinite paths.
Yes, of course
That can be it. But isn't the only way. Truly, great only matters to the one living it and not what others think. If the one living it is happy, content healthy, that is a great life.
I don’t think you can accidentally stumble upon a great life. You must cultivate it intentionally through many choices, big and small. And I also don’t think you can feel happy without feeling connected within yourself, with people you love, and with the world around you. There is no way to live happily in a vacuum.
I read a book by Cameron Diaz called Body Book in my early 20s. It was the first time I ever read anything about taking care of my body and it worked!
The best way to start a new habit is to make it as easy as possible.
I don’t know how European libraries work. Here in the States, we have so many libraries where we can borrow books for free. We also have an app for that. I think that reading is so important because it gives you new ideas and therefore new solutions to your problems. Books can absolutely be life changing and improve your quality of life.
I suggest reading Atomic Habits by James Clear. He answers this very question.
thank you so much
You’re so very welcome.
I am in awe of both of your responses! I too have been healing myself and your words inspire me! Your words and how you responded are exactly what my aspirations are for myself in how I respond and inspire others! If you write or share stories I would love to read it! To the OP, I too hope you start crushing those limiting self beliefs, cause that’s what they are! Start telling yourself you believe in yourself and eventually, and yes i said eventually cause things take time, you will believe it. It’s the power of persuasion and you’ve got to be the one to persuade yourself! We can and do attempt to persuade people all day long but it’s completely up to each and every one of us what we do with the advice or actions that are given. You were given the most astoundingly amazing advice that you, or anyone else for that matter, could ever hope to receive and I know that if you read the words again and train your brain, you will absolutely get out of this mindset you are in! Believe in yourself! I’ll leave you with this phrase that I adopted at the beginning of my journey, “Progress not Perfection”.
Hi! I actually have a blog that is now defunct. I’m editing my posts and I will relaunch down the road. When that happens, I hope I will remember to let you know.
I would love to read more of your thoughts too 🙏🏼 You have helped describe things so cleanly that I’ve been feeling lingering in the background
I will keep you in mind when I relaunch too. Thanks so much for the support and kindness. People have been really sweet to me these last two days on Reddit.
I’ll tell you how I got over being called ugly often as a kid. It used to make me cry because people criticized my skin color, my hair, my nose, my weight etc. One day I couldn’t stop thinking about how people were so mean to me. I was tired of crying. I started feeling concerned that I couldn’t shake off that sadness. That day, I looked at myself in the mirror and I determined for myself that I was NOT ugly. I looked at each characteristic on my face separately and came to the conclusion. Everything on my face was just average. My nose was a nose and my eyes were eyes etc. There was nothing hideous or disgusting about noses that looked like noses. I decided that I was normal that day. And I realized I didn’t need to be pretty. There was no one to compete with anymore. If someone calls me pretty, I don’t let it get to my head. If someone calls me ugly, I don’t let it get to my heart. I know I am just average which felt like an absolute blessing. What a relief it is to not have to fight for the top spot with anyone. It’s a losing game because there will always be someone younger and hotter. Just remove yourself from the competition altogether.
This! Wow so elegantly said. I don't know what you look like, but I know from these words you wrote that you are a beautiful person.
Thank you.
People who throw rocks then hide their hands.
As a coach, James has a professional duty to come up with a diet plan, work out plan, and/or PEDs plan that is both safe and effective. The effective part is much preferable but the safe part is crucial and nonnegotiable. He must be held responsible for his negligent professional behavior. Any job must adhere to some code of ethics. James is fully responsible for the plans and advice he gives out to his clients. In the end, did James give dangerous information that led to this result? With a position like that, you have great responsibility towards your client.